Nollywood movies made me fall in love

Dear Obaa Yaa

Growing up, there was something that always made me happy and gave me hope about love.

 Anytime my friends and I watched Nigerian movies and saw Omotola and Emeka Ike playing romantic roles, we would get excited and tell ourselves, we can’t wait to experience it ourselves.

Today, I am a married woman, but one thing keeps running through my mind whenever I remember those movies. My husband loves me dearly and is always all over me because he says he is attracted to my big breasts and curvy backside.

This has left me wondering if he truly loves me for who I am or if he is simply attracted to my physical appearance. The kind of love I admired growing up in those movies didn’t seem to depend on a woman’s body shape or size.

Obaa Yaa, based on my experience, does my husband truly love me?

 Christy, Darkuman.

Dear Christi,

It is understandable why you are asking this question. Many of us grow up with stories and movies that portray love in a certain way, and when real life looks different, we naturally wonder if what we have is genuine.

From what you have shared, your husband’s attraction to your body does not automatically mean his feelings are only lust. In a healthy marriage, physical attraction is an important part of love. Many husbands openly admire their wives’ appearance, and there is nothing wrong with that. In fact, it can be a sign that he still finds you beautiful and desirable.

Movies often show a romantic version of love, but real marriages are built on friendship, trust, commitment, respect, sacrifice, emotional intimacy, and physical attraction. The strongest relationships combine all of these, not just one.

Instead of focusing only on what he says about your body, pay attention to how he consistently treats you. His actions over time will reveal whether his love is rooted only in attraction or in genuine commitment to you as his wife.

A loving marriage can include strong physical attraction. The key question is not whether your husband is attracted to you that is normal but whether he also values, respects, and cares for you as a whole person. Over time, those qualities are the clearest signs of lasting love.