Obaa Yaa
My wife wants what I can’t afford
Dear Obaa Yaa,
My wife told me to buy her a brand new car as a birthday present. I have been saving towards this.
My intention was to get her a Nissan second hand car. Three days to her birthday, she told me she wanted a Range Rover because that is what her friends have been using.
I cannot afford this and even if I can do it, I may have to save additional money. She would not understand this.
She now calls me ‘irresponsible’ and all sort of names. I am so embarrassed by this behaviour.
Kwesi, Racecourse
Dear Kwesi,
Your wife isn’t treating you fairly if this is the story. If on the other hand she has a reason to believe you misuse your money, then she may have a point.
For me, your wife shouldn’t use what her friends are doing as a marker for you. After all you were willing to buy her a car of your choice but she rejected.
We are not in normal times so advise your wife to appreciate everything you do for her.
Advise her to stay away from those friends I believe may be influencing her.
Anyway, why don’t you sit down and talk amicably about this? If it’s Range Rover she wants, tell her she will get it but not now.
I think it makes sense for her to wait, unless she doesn’t want her preferred car.