Obaa Yaa
My Uncle is proposing marriage to me
I am 20 years of age and my mother’s brother (my uncle) has been proposing marriage to me.
He always tries to touch either my breast or buttocks any time he gets close to me.
Although he already has two wives and is a womaniser, he says he is serious about me.
I am even scared with the way he going about things.
Should I report him to my mother?
Eyram, Volta
Dear Eyram,
THIS is a very serious and concerning situation. Marriage between an uncle and a niece is illegal in most countries due to genetic risk widely considered ethically and morally unacceptable.
Though this sort of relationship was acceptable to some ethnic groups in the past. It is now regarded by most people as incest and frowned upon.
Also very often, when children are born out of marriage of close relative, there is the tendency for them to suffer from intense cases of genetic disorder or diseases within the family.
I would also not advice that you encourage such a relationship since the man is a known womaniser.
He would break your heart and mess you up. Even mature women are unable to handle such trauma; how much more a mere 20 year old girl.
Firmly say no and avoid being alone with him. If you feel pressured or threatened seek help from someone you trust. (Parents, siblings, friends or authorities).