My husband is accusing me of cheating

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I took off my wedding rings but could not find it again. I was washing when I took them off and placed them on a wall close to me. Honestly, after washing I forgot to pick them up until the evening, when my husband asked where my ring were, I quickly dashed out of the room to check where I had placed them, but they were not there. My husband made it clear that I was cheating that was why I could take my rings off and lose them.

I was packing to leave the house when the bags fell and I heard a tinkling sound of metals instead of plastic. I looked around the floor, and my rings were lying there.

Who took the rings and kept them there and why would the person do that to me just to shake the foundation of my marriage?

Oye, Tabora.

Dear Oye,

Your husband’s reaction was abusive, not just angry. Accusing you of cheating was just mean.

 Rings don’t prove fidelity, trust does. Your response was fair: taking rings off to wash is normal, and cheating has nothing to do with it.

The fact that the rings ‘mysteriously’ ended up in your bags suggests someone moved them deliberately to cause conflict.  A partner who jumps to punishment instead of problem-solving will do it again when the next misunderstanding happens.

If indeed your husband threatened and pushed you out, kindly talk to someone you trust in the family or a counsellor before moving back in. If you choose to stay, your husband needs to apologise and let peace to reign.