My husband feels too shy for my liking

Dear ObaaYaa,

Our marriage is blessed with a child and things are going on well with us. All this while, l have realised that my husband is the shy-looking type who finds it difficult to stand up when issues crop up among his peers.

During little domestic squabbles, he will hardly talk to explain his point and it looks as though l am the one who talks too much or the one who is all the time causing trouble.

I feel uneasy whenever my husband fails to defend the family or himself in public, a situation which forces me to step in to speak.

Since he is the man and the head of the family, he should sit up and do what men are capable of doing but he woefully fails in this direction and l am always embarrassed.

I am contemplating leaving the marriage since the embarrassment is ceaselessly mounting.

Dorothy, Koforidua.

Dear Dorothy,

I don’t think your issue should be considered the type which should warrant a divorce.  I can discern from your letter that your husband is a quiet person who finds it difficult to talk at home, let alone in public.

He is the type of person who keeps matters within and would not like to voice out his concerns. In view of that you must try to cope with his attitude since that is his nature.

What you ought to do is to consider yourself blessed since this is a shortcoming you can easily cope with so long as you remain a couple. 

Others have serious challenges in their marriages, like enduring severe beatings and other types of spousal abuses, yet they still move on.