I’m pregnant but my man doesn’t care

Dear Obaa Yaa,

My sister, who is a single mother, is expecting another baby with the same man who has refused to take responsibility for their first child.

According to her, he left when their first child was just a month old and travelled by bus to his hometown (Libya).

Three years later, he returned after a very difficult experience.

He eventually showed up after leaving the family for three years. Upon his visit, she was lured by this man and ended up in bed with him again.

She later found out that she was pregnant with her second child, and she is currently at a loss as to what she should do.

Lilian, Abofu.

Dear Lilian,

When I read such stories, I get very angry with the victims—in this case, your sister—for being so careless.

She was extremely careless by having unprotected sex with a man who does not take responsibility.

As a matter of fact, the situation your sister finds herself in is heartbreaking and frustrating. Carrying another child with a man who has shown a consistent lack of care and respect towards her and their child is a heavy burden.

In this circumstance, her health and that of the unborn child, as well as the first child, should be her priority.

Tell your sister not to rely on the man again. She should rather find something to do to gain some financial independence.