Dear Obaa Yaa,

A family friend of ours returned from the United States of America and brought me a lot of goodies.

He invited me to his house and gave me a digital camera, an I-Phone, dresses and cosmetics.

Suddenly, this guy, a womaniser by nature ever since I have known him, started making midnight calls to me on the phone he gave me.

I refused his calls because he always called late. One morning, he informed me that I should return all the things he gave me.

Interestingly, I sold my phone because of the new one he gave me. So, if I give it to him, I would have no phone.

Nyamedo, B.A.

Dear Nyamedo,

I DON’T think you have to return the gift because he did not offer them to you in exchange for anything.

There was no agreement that he was giving you the items in exchange for love.

Gifts, once given unconditionally, remains gifts and cannot be returned.

If your friend had any intentions about you, what stops him from letting you know?

You can’t just give someone some­thing and assume the person will be in love with you.

If he harasses you, report the matter to the police.

I will advise you to stop taking gifts from people if you don’t know their in­tention to avoid this kind of drama.