She Went in for the Manager

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am in a relationship with a woman in her late 30s, while I am in my mid-40s. We have been together for the past five years.

My problem is that we work in the same firm and share the same office. For reasons best known to her, she left me for our Manager.

When I confronted her about her behaviour and pleaded with her to end whatever she had with him, she insisted that they were “just friends.”

I am confused and hurt. Does she have any positive plans for me at all? Also, is it normal for a woman to be overly free with any man who shows interest in her?

Finally, is it right for a woman to test a man’s love, as many ladies claim they do?

Kwesi, Tafo

Dear Kwesi,

This situation has the potential to hurt you deeply, especially if she returns only when the other option is no longer available. That kind of behaviour is troubling and emotionally unfair.

From what you describe, she crossed a line and should acknowledge her wrongdoing and apologise sincerely before you even consider moving forward. No one has the right to toy with another person’s feelings simply because they are unhappy or uncertain.

You need to sit her down and have a mature, honest conversation about the direction and seriousness of the relationship.

Most importantly, ask yourself this question: Is this the kind of woman you would want to marry and spend the rest of your life with?

Your answer should guide your next decision.

Greetings,
Obaa Yaa

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