She must leave my house

Dear Obaa Yaa,   

When l was successfully delivered of my son, my husband and l saw the need to look for a house help to assist in the performance of the domestic chores to relieve me of the workload at home.

 l understood him because  the decision was taken in my interest and to provide me with some time to rest when less busy.  

When the house help finally settled down in the house, she started wearing mini-skirts, transparent dresses and sometimes partially exposing her breast through her dress.

I did not hesitate to draw her attention to the fact that l was against her dressing so she must change.

Though l have served her this notice, she has refused to comply and continue to dress the way l have cautioned her against.

This lady is the type who is capable of meddling in matters which do not concern her.

A friend of mine who met her in town a couple of times has suggested that l should expel her from the house in order to save my marriage. She said l should not blame anyone if she succeeds in snatching my husband from me.     

My husband has disagreed to my suggestion that the lady should leave the house because it is difficult getting house helps these days.

What should l do?

Nancy, Ablekuma, Accra

Dear Nancy,

I would like to commend you for your vigilance and for taking pains to study the nitty-gritty of what happens in your house.

Be reminded of the saying that “actions speak louder than words.” The details you have identified and the observation of your friend all point to the danger lurking in your backyard and immediate steps must be taken to address it before it gets out of control.

You can only save your marriage by ensuring that this lady leaves your house for good. However, if you delay, you would have yourself to blame.