My wife is living with another man

Dear Obaa Yaa,

Due to a small misunderstanding, my wife has left her matrimonial home and had gone to stay with my in-laws. I have been invited by them to come for the matter to be settled.

However, I have been reliably informed that my wife and my three-year-old son are currently staying with a man.

This is so annoying, I want to call in the police to arrest and charge this man for abduction.

Philip,

Accra.

Dear Philip,

You don’t have a problem with this man. You have a problem with your wife.

Also, do not rely on hearsay to act. I suggest you go to your In-laws to ask of your wife and listen to what they have to say.

Go along with a mature member of your family and discuss the issue.

If it is just a ‘small misunderstanding’ as you say then let your attitude lead to reconciliation.

If it is true that your wife is living with a man and her parents endorse it then that is another matter.

Your family must meet her family squarely on the matter to decide whether your marriage to their daughter is over or not.

But don’t go for a divorce no matter how complicated things may turn out to be. You owe your child his happiness. The police is a last resort.