My husband is threatening me

Obaa Yaa,

Our rent is due and my husband wants us to move into a house I’ve built with my own money and I said no, saying that, “That’s not the plan I have for the building. We can’t move in.” 

My plan has always been to rent it out. The income would give me some sort of stability. The moment I said that, he became furious. He started calling me selfish, disrespectful, and all kinds of names. Now he is threatening divorce because I refused to move into the house I built alone.  Kindly read my story and tell me if I’m wrong to say no to him.

Baaba, Mankesim.

Dear Baaba,

You are not wrong for saying no, but this situation isn’t really about right or wrong. It’s about priorities, communication, and how both of you can handle pressure as couple.

Your situation makes sense. You are the owner of the house.

Your husband is reacting from stress. If your rent is due and housing becomes uncertain, he may see your house as immediate solution. That doesn’t justify the insults or threats.

Calling you names and threating divorce is not a healthy response. It shift the issue from problem-solving to emotional pressure.