My husband is always in the bedroom

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I AM 30 and he is 45. We have been married for three years now. The problem I have with my husband is that when he is not at work and he’s home, and always in the bedroom.

You can never see my husband in the sitting room chatting with the chil­dren or with me.

And Obaa Yaa, he only tells the children and I that he loves us when he is tipsy or drunk. That is the only time you will see him in a conversation with us.

Do you believe he really means it when he says he loves us in that mood?

Baaba,

Agona Nyakrom.

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Dear Baaba,

Generally, there are many types of personality in everyone and I hope your husband is an intro­vert. This means he is not the outgo­ing type and wants to keep to himself either reading or listening to music.

And of course, such a person would need something to stimulate him to be open, expressive and nice, and I guess a little alcohol is doing just that.

If he is not abusing the alcohol, then there is nothing much more to worry about. Be loving and let him be the person God has made him.

Ask the children to go to him any­time he is lonely to share jokes and help them with their homework.

Encourage him to be more com­municative and do not nag about him because that will worsen the problem.