I want a divorce 

Dear Obaa Yaa,

After two years of marriage, I have realised that I made a big mistake in marrying my wife. She has become very different from the woman I knew and married; she is so uncompromising. 

I have met another girl who is just the type of girl I should have married. She agrees with me on everything and does not harass me the way my wife does. 

My wife will not agree to a divorce and my girl refuses to be a second wife. I am caught in a dilemma, because both my wife and my girlfriend are making my life hell. I feel very tempted to leave them both.

Owusu,

Tafo.

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Dear Owusu

Maybe you should give your marriage another chance. For all you know, your wife is just as unhappy as you are but she is trying to live with the situation. 

Your girlfriend’s attitude now is different from your wife’s and that should tell you that no one is perfect.  It should also prove to you that when people are not happy, they behave differently. 

Try and communicate with your wife more and discuss your problems no matter how little it might look.

If you make the effort to keep your marriage, you might be surprised at the positive changes that will take place in your life.