He keeps changing of late

Dear Obaa Yaa,

I have been married for 20 years and we have three children by the grace of God. My husband is pending retirement whilst l have a few years to serve.

I have realised of late that my husband gets highly provoked by the least issue and shouts at the top of his voice and no one can calm him down and everything comes to a standstill in the house. He hangs on such issues for hours or even days before his temper comes down.

He has planned to settle in his hometown when he retires from active service and he is insisting that the family follows him.

Unfortunately, l am managing a small business which helps me to supplement my salary for the upkeep of the family.

Looking at the way he has changed suddenly and his decision that we should settle at his hometown worries me. l will consider this decision a worry to me because it will affect my work and the little business l run.

I cannot proceed on voluntary retirement as this will pose a serious problem to the family.

What action should l take under the circumstance?

Abena, Cape   Coast.

Dear Abena,

I commend you for the swift action you have taken in writing to this column for advice.

We thank God that the minor frictions and insults in the house had not degenerated into fights which could have produced grave consequences.

We have different characteristics, levels at which people comprehend issues and how others also respond to certain types of messages or pieces of information that concerns them.

Information about pending retirement sets people to think about their future since they will have to depend on a meagre monthly allowance.

This becomes an issue of concern if the one proceeding on retirement has no reliable investment to depend on.

I don’t know the sort of investment your husband has made and how prepared he is for this new way of life. That is why some institutions have planned series of programmes to condition the minds of their employees who are pending retirement.

I think he has been thinking about many things, especially levels he could not achieve during his active working period.

You have to explain to him.