He is too bossy

Dear Obaa Yaa,
I AM in a relationship with a man I love very much but he upsets me a lot with his bossy attitude.

He also expects me to come to his house to clean-up, wash and iron for him regularly.

When I fail to do so, sometimes he threatens to break-up with me, saying I am lazy.

The idea of marrying this man frightens me sometimes, or am I the one giving out wrong signals?

Abi, Dansoman.

Dear Abi,
ATTITUDES in a relationship are often set unconsciously before a couple marry. Greetings.

In marriages one tries to adjust and stop living the pretense, he or she disappoints the other partner, thus causing problems.

Your man must understand that marriage or a premarital relationship only works well on a foundation of mutual respect and partnership.

He, therefore, should show gratitude when you do him the favour of cleaning up for him. He has no right to throw a tantrum when you don’t, especially when he has not even married you.

What is really disturbing is the fact that he gives you the options to be a ‘good servant’ or lose him.

A relationship is not a ‘master and servant’ affair. You would be better off losing him than being in a relationship where your partner or spouse regards you only as a servant.